I’ve read that when you repeat the same responses to certain situations, your brain forges pathways that make it more and more likely that you will keep repeating this action. It’s like you’ve created a path through the jungle and it’s easiest to follow it. You can choose to make a different path, but that involves hacking your way through the thick vegetation, so it is hard to resist taking the well established path.
Today, I’ve been struggling to create a new path. I have a first date tonight, my first date in a couple years and I’ve been feeling sick with anxiety. I have almost cancelled several times. I’m scratching my psoriasis like crazy and tempted to forget it all and hide under my covers, trying to sleep my stress away.
That would be the established path. I’m trying to resist the lure and to start making my way into the woods. But I keep getting scratched and hit in the face by the branches.
I was at the precipice – do I nap and hope I feel better and make the call later? Or do I try something different. Have a nice bath, get ready early and try to meditate or relax somewhere outside until it’s time for my date?
Two things prompted me towards the bath. My desire to stop sabotaging myself. And something my neighbour said to me in passing last week:
Life begins outside of your comfort zone.
This may be a well established quote, but it was new to me and just what I needed to hear. I stay so often within my comfort zone, but that means that I am missing out on life.
Do I want to miss out on this chance for a relationship with a great guy? Because of my fear of discomfort? Do I want to keep repeating the same mistakes that leave me all alone at the end of the day?
No.
So I’m trying to leave the path behind and step into the wilderness. It’s taking a while for me to get somewhere, but I’m trying. Fingers crossed, I’ll make it out to my date and have a lovely time.